In this article i think  this guy called Cmon was so fair becouse  he dumped his girl friend in terms of the girl have been changed but they were in a a relationship for four years. Now he sees that this girl will never do anything becouse of the disability but they are coming far so this guy is not thinking back were they come from he is just run away looking for the good girls. So this girl is unhappy she thinks that is the end of life maybe she will never have relationship love affair becouse of her disability.Also this guy was unatractive.

my journeya "as paraplegic"

while reading this article what i have noticed is that it is not easy for the people who have disability to accept themselves. They think every things that are happening to their lives happens because they are disable for example this para woman think that her man left her because she is disable. All i can say is that if someone find it difficult to accept his or her disability must find help and go to support groups in order get to accept the situation and start afresh.

Response D.Van Rooi

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My journey as a “paraplegic”

I respect the fact that the person is very optimistic in the blog and she tries not to concentrate on the negative effects of the break-up. Most people with a disability would think that they are being dumped because of their disability and that’s usually where the confusion starts. You start to feel bad about yourself and think what you could’ve done to improve the relationship and why this had to happen to you. With an attitude like that it could be difficult to enter into another relationship with a positive outlook.

This is why I respect the blogger’s views on her break-up and future relationships because she’s not focusing on the negative but positive. A lot of women who are not disabled could learn a lot from her story. If I look at the challenges paraplegics faced when it comes to relationships I understand the difficulty for both parties  to come to terms with the fact that one of them can’t necessarily do things normal couples do.

Task 1 - my thought of the story

The whole article that i've read, its kind of intersting she has had the problems on the fact that she broke up with her boyfriend jthat they have been dating for 4 years but she it did bother her for a while maybe he left her because she was in the accident but after a while she got to a point where she just decided to snap out of it because worry about things that was never true is not good.

After a while of thinking about things she came out to be positive about all the things that happened to her even being in a accident and being paraplegic, she is inspiring because at the end she has hope.

my journey " as a paraplegic" relationships

Reading this article a few things stood out to me: The fact that she was a paraplegic, her confidence as well as outlook on life and then her writing style. Its heart breaking that shes a "para" as she refers to it, and that her boyfriend of 4 years called it quits. I picked up that she still has a sense of hope and that the 'Mr. perfect' is out there waiting for her. I noticed she does not pity herself, which one would almost expect of somebody in her situation. What caught my attention most was her writing style, it was almost casual and fun to read. The words and style of words that she used gave it almost a fun aspect because most readings that us as students read is usually of an academic nature. Its a refreshing outlook on relationships and gives me a sense of hope almost.

Touched my heart...

The article really touched my heart because this blogger had a lot of things that she was going through.She was already 25 years old when when the incident happened which left her permanently seated. One can only imagine how much stress she must have gone through because having something(as important as your legs) taken away from you that you have been used to for 25 years...i do not think that i could have done that.She also talks about the relationships that she had before as well as during this difficult time in her life. Her relationship that she had with God had changed, she felt that he was not there for her otherwise He would not have let this happen to her. While she was dealing with her situation she also let her relationship slip with the boyfriend that she had at the time. The article also gave us a chance to stop and think that paraplegics also have feelings and all the things that they have to deal with and are still dealing with.

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This woman narrates the story in a very clear and satisfying way because she states both her previous and current thoghts about her late situation.
I think that the man this woman used to date before her accident did not love her but her but her lower body as the relationship ended after his girlfriend got paralyzed.
i believe that women are strong people as they can face and overcome many challenges at the same time as i strongly believe that if this experience happened to a man he would have killed himself.
 this story implies that disability is not the end of life as there are still people who prefer disabled people since they believe that they are less problematic compared to those with no disabilities.
judging other people because of their disabilities is not a good thing to do as they did not choose to be god just wanted them to be the way they are and for that matter we all have our disabilities but they differ since some are visible and some are not and that causes people to believe that they are better than others.




The main reason that may cause disabled people not to easily accept their disability is the fact that once you suffer from a visible disablement the society begins to reject and isolate you as if you are not a human being but a scary and stinking wild animal.
the people with invisible disabilities are expected to love,respect and care about disabled people but instead they murder,rape and abuse these disabled people.
South Africa is a rainbow  nation because of different race groups and different types of people so if we keep killing and hurting disabled people our country will no longer be a rainbow  nation.    

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ARTICLE: My journey "as a paraplegic"

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Life is not about sitting in a corner, feeling sorry for yourself. It's about accepting your circumstances, gripping the bull by the horns and work towards a positive change. As the proverb states: " Life is not about waiting for the storm to calm, it's about learning how to dance in the rain". I personally think, that one should look at his/her condition,not as a burden, but as a motivation to emerge from it. One should not be cynical about the situation, which they find themselves in. Always remember that life is quite beneficial, because it offers us a range of opportunity, which we can choose from. Life does not interfere with the choices we make, therefore we can choose how we want to use, whatever we got from life. The most precious thing life offers, is "time". We can choose how we want our time to be spent,but we can not demand "wasted" time back. Always remember to spend your time wisely and never let anyone spend your "precious time" for you.

Response K Kleinsmidt

For every person with a disability it’s not going to be easy to have a relationship with someone with active limbs. It would be a challenge for the partner because everywhere they would go he’ll have to struggle with her and it would be very awkward for him. The fact that her boyfriend left her doesn’t mean that she has to give up on life and relationships. Maybe he left her because he didn’t feel the same way anymore. Maybe he left her because she wasn’t the person he wanted her to be.  She deserves someone who will love and appreciate her. Someone who will accept her for the person she really is and care for her. Although she is disabled, she still stands a chance to have children. As the result of her disability a lot of men do not find her attractive and I cannot help it but to feel sorry for her. This is not something she wanted so who are we to judge.

My journeys "as a paraplegic"

 I found the story of the young paraplegic woman very heart warming. She somehow enables are rather disables t he reader to be sympathetic as her style of writing is very nonchalant and easy going. Even though she has gone through the worst experience a person can go through, she has still kept a positive attitude is determined to get through life as 'normal' as possible. It seems as though she has learned the consequences and futility of feeling sorry for herself. I can't help but think that the way she is, is influenced by her family members and theirt easy going attitudes.She refuses to live life under the title of paraplegic and considers herself the same as everyone else. She is a true inspiration. You go girl!

Response R. Linden

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Relationships...ups and downs. Complicated. I really enjoyed reading this article as I have never read anything of this calibre before. I believe that too much attention is being put on relationships and dating. It’s not like it’s the only things in life anymore. It’s more of a cliché than anything else. The blogger, for the first time in my life, made me think of a paraplegic might be going through when it comes to relationships. We all look at them and think "shame” but in the meantime we are the ones who should shame us for letting them feel uncomfortable. The blogger is a very strong person and I aplaude her for being so rational considering her situation. I believe that everyone is entitled to everlasting love, whether you have active limbs. She makes light shine on the lives of paraplegics. We must thank her for that.

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This woman is very analytical about her situation. She is always asking herself questions and tries to understand her family and friend’s behavior.  She is very considerate and doesn’t resent her ex-boyfriend for leaving her. Even though it hurt her she comforts herself in the fact that it may not have been because of her disability, but rather her bad attitude. She appears to not feel sorry for herself and is trying to move on with her life.

What would you do?

In my personal opinion, I think that it must be extremely difficult for anyone suffering from a disability. There is so much confusion as to why they have to go through this and it is obviously normal for them not being able to accept it and to resent God. Most of the time it is just because they have not come to terms with it. Much insecurity will arouse and sometimes they will feel as if they should rather be dead than go through this. Fortunately there is always light at the end of a dark tunnel and I were to be a friend of someone experiencing this, I would make it my first priority to make them see that I will give my full support and will always be encouraging and understanding. It is never wise to be judgmental in a situation like this, because in the end you must answer this question: How would you want people to treat you if you were to be in a situation like this?